...that I'm getting married to Micah? Oh, I did? Aha. Moving right along...
Micah has posted a satirical, how-it-didn't-happen version of Our Story. It makes me laugh. Then he posted on the idea of finding 'The One'. Good thoughts.
So... do you know what getting engaged means? Yes, yes, getting married, but before that. Wedding planning! It started with stacks of paper, but now I have a three ring binder rapidly filling with checklists, scribbled notes, purple sticky notes, green ribbons ("What do you think of this color of sage?"), pictures of dresses, contact information for a cake person... you get the picture. :-)
If any of you have wedding planning advice, feel free! (I may not follow it, but I'll appreciate it anyway!) Especially if you have suggestions for how to incorporate my brothers in the ceremony without them lighting candles. (The thought of young boys with flammable materials at my wedding gives me the shivers.) Two of them are at that in between stage, too old for ring bearers, too young to be ushers- but I want them to be involved. Also, any suggestions on classical pieces of music to use before the ceremony would be lovely. :-)
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When I was married, my 9 year old sister was junior bridesmaid, and Mike's 10 year old brother was junior groomsman. They wore kid-sized versions of the clothes the other maids and groomsmen were wearing, and I thought it worked out nicely. My 20 year old brother was an usher.
How old are your brothers?
On music:
I had a soloist sing Great is Thy Faithfulness. The organist played Bach's Jesu, Joy of Man's Desiring during the seating of the mothers. The bridal march was Clarke's Trumpet Voluntary (aka Prince of Denmark March), which was at that time attributed to Henry Purcell. I've also heard Sheep May Safely Graze and Of the Father's Love begotten used for pre-service music. John and Moriah Barach used Handel's Arrival of the Queen of Sheba for the march.
Here's a site with lots of suggestions, but unfortunately the samples are all those awful midi files. You might consider buying a CD from Amazon or someplace, that will help you with ideas. Be sure to listen to the sample of Track 18 on this album - the organist in the church I grew up in used it as a recessional after church on occasion and I think it would make a wonderful wedding recessional.
HTH
Hi, BadgerMum! :-)
They are from 8-13. Thanks so much for the music suggestions!
I'm sure you'll be able to come up with something creative! I have faith in your creativity. It's so long since I planned a wedding (over 30 years now) - I'm a little rusty! I'm so happy for you and Micah.
Hello, Natalie! :)
Just an idea... one couple in our church had us sing a rousing rendition of "Oh, Let My Name Engraven Stand" (you may or may not know it:) as the bride walked down the aisle. She was a bit on the quieter/shy side and this made it so everyone still saw her walking down the aisle, but also had to pay attention to the music, so not ALL of the attention was on her. It's just a slightly different way of doing it. :) Also at this couple's reception, we danced and sang until nearly one in the morning, but it sounds like this is already your plan. ;) Oh, and as an interesting side note, I was actually also at John & Moriah Barach's wedding. :) I hope the rest of your planning goes smoothly!
~Angie
You're welcome, sweetie, and you can call me Mrs. Cumbee. :-)
Mosey had told me your brothers' ages, but I couldn't remember. Junior groomsmen would be nice role for them.
I don't know if you're concerned much about your attendants matching - in clothing and number. When I married, it was de rigeur, and I remember my daddy saying once that he didn't like it - made it look like a Broadway show or something. It was such an odd idea for me that I never even thought about it again. So I had three bridesmaids and Mr. C. had three groomsmen, and then men escorted the maids back up the aisle after the ceremony, which had always been the custom as far as I knew.
Many years later, I happened to read in Emily Post's Etiquette (1950s edition) that she thought this new trend (!) was distasteful as it looked like a procession of brides and grooms. Apparantly the couple had always been followed out by the maids (walking two by two) and then the groomsmen (also walking two by two - though no one but the bride and groom were arm in arm).
Anyway, just thought I'd mention that. Our family is always looking at old customs that went by the wayside during the rise of feminism and the current cultural rebellion, to see if any of them are worth reviving.
Oh, I meant to say that this custom would be helpful if you had an unequal number of groomsmen and bridesmaids, since there wouldn't be any awkwardness of a few couples followed by a few "singles" during the recessional.
HTH
Thanks CB, Angie, and Mrs. Cumbee! :-)
I have a 1920's edition of Emily Post, which assumes that the ladies and gents will walk down separately...not sure exactly what the reasoning is behind that. It is quite interesting. As far as the attendants matching each other, I've specified the exact sleeve, a square neckline, a length, and a shoe color, and am leaving the rest to my bridesmaids. I figured that way they could pick a dress best suited to themselves while still looking unified. :-)
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